Monday, November 5, 2012

10 Mistakes to Avoid in Marriage

1. Putting your kids first
 Marriage can suffer when your children always come before your partner. 

2. Not making time for friends
For many, especially women, socializing with friends can boost their energy and make them feel connected to the world around them. So make time with your friends.

3. Shutting down sexually
Men achieve a sense of intimacy and closeness primarily through sex. So when you’re not sexually available to him, he doesn't feel as romantic or intimately connected to you.

4. Not setting boundaries
Women are trained from an early age to be pleasers and to meet everyone else's needs before their own. Unless you take the time to recharge your batteries and say “no” once in a while, your life and your relationships will always be a struggle. 

5. Not listening
This includes allowing your mind to wander, paying more attention to the computer or television, ignoring body language and interrupting.



6. Argue to win
You do not need to have the last word in every argument. Admit it when you make a mistake or when you do not have all the answers. Instead, work out that problem together amicably. 

7. Dishonesty 
Having lies and secrets in your relationship can create distance and a lack of trust between you and your spouse. And lies I’m not talking about “big” ones. A lie is a lie no matter the size. A lie is also telling the truth, but only half of it.

8. Not fulfilling your promises 
When you say you will do something, do it. Broken promises can cause marriage to suffer.

9. Having temper tantrums
Conflict should be handled in a constructive way. Having angry outburst may win an argument but it will be at the expense of the relationship.  Ask God for self-control and the wisest way to solve conflicts.

10. Not having time to spend with the Lord, TOGETHER (Last but the most important in my opinion)
Ignoring the third and most important party in marriage will definitely shake your marriage. Take some time to bring things to the Lord. Study the word together and encourage each other in love.

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28 comments:

  1. Great list my friend!
    And just a thought, the word verification is on, and my comment almost didn't go through, I hit enter and went to leave the page and before I did, the word verify popped up. I wonder how many times you didn't get my comment because of that?

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    1. oops sorry about that Kendra, will try to fix this out :) thanks for visiting and hosting the link up! remain blessed! x

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  2. These are great words of advice and wisdom, Angie. I have probably done all ten of the mistakes and know there is wisdom in not repeating them! Thanks so much for this challenge!

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    1. Thanks for following Beth. We're always learning.Marriage is a long process. You never stop learning and growing. As I post I am being ministered as well. It's always great to read your comments...get some feedback! remain blessed. Have a great week x

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  3. Handy advice...thank you for sharing these simple yet effective strategies for safeguarding our marriages..blessings and Miracles, your new follower through GFC.. Nicole

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    1. Thanks Nicole, I'll pay you a visit and follow you back! Be blessed :)

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  4. Angie,

    Everything you listed was covered in a marriage retreat me and my husband attended a few months ago. It really opened our eyes to what could be improved in our marriage and since then, we have taking what we learned to heart. My marriage is so much better now than it used to be!

    Your list is invaluable as it provides much needed advice on how to have a happy and fulfilling future.

    P.S. I found you through Covered in Grace's Monday link up :)


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    1. I'm so glad to hear this article kinda confirmed what you learned at the retreat. More glad to hear that your marriage is better than it used to be!
      Thanks for visiting...have a blessed week!

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  5. A solid list - one that could provide a hedge of safety if couples would adopt the concepts.

    I really appreciate #1, mostly because I see so many young couples with kids becoming consumed by their children, forgetting that soon enough it'll be just the two of them again.

    Great post.

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    1. Thanks for your comment Lori. And so true, as young wife and mother I started making this mistake, but I received a lot of orientation and advice from the elder women from church, and they were always making emphasis in this point.Things in my marriage have definitely gone better since I decided to pay more attention to this issue.
      Wish you a great week! :)

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  6. Great list for every married woman (and man) to remind themselves of once in a while.

    I'm visiting through Growing Home's Teach Me Tuesday. I'd love a visit back!

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    1. Thanks for visiting, I'll definitely pay you a visit back, remain blessed! :)

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  7. Angie,

    I, too, really like #1. Often we think that to be a good mother, we have to put our children first. In reality, having a child-centered marriage harms them more than helps them. When they see that God is first, then Dad, their little world is secure, because all is as it should be. You are very wise :)

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    1. Thanks for visiting Lori, I sent you an email earlier on! I love your blog and your feedback. You're so sweet and very wise. I've learnt a lot from your blog and I really admire you! what a blessing that the Lord crossed our paths! be blessed :)

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  8. This is a great list. I definitely see a couple areas we need to work on. Phew. Thanks for the encouragement. See you at T2T.

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    1. Thanks for hosting the link! love your blog and you're surely blessed with you beautiful family! see you there!

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  9. All 10 are great tips. Thanks for these reminders.

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    1. THANK YOU for visiting! Love your blog and admire you as woman. You're so wise! May the good Lord continue blessing you and your ministry! speak soon! xx

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  10. this is very inspiring and informative for me. see i have been having problems with my marriage. love your blog! i'm your new follower via follow me wednesday. hoping for a follow back! and i am looking forward into reading more! :-)

    http://merdinein.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! Glad to hear you found the advise useful! Will pay you a visit! be blessed! :)

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  11. As a bride-to-be, this is definitely something I will take note of so we can get our marriage started out on the right foot.

    -Lindsey

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    1. Congratulations Lindsey! You're very wise in preparing yourself for such a commitment! there's nothing better you can do than prepare youself. Reading Godly books and receiving advice from Godly people who love u is the best you can bring gift to your marriage! Congratulations once again! when is your wedding? are u nervous?!! awww enjoy your day, it's amazing how u don't even realize that the day is over!! it's just like a dream! :)

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  12. Wise words. Thank you for sharing and linking in community at my blog. :)

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  13. Great list! Thanks for sharing at Thriving Thursday, I'm adding this to the pinterest board.

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  14. What a great list of advice! Thank you for sharing and linking up at Simply Helping Him! Blessings!

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