Do you remember when you used to dream about how wonderful it would be to get married?
Of course, marriage is wonderful...but not all of the time. There will be times when marriage seems so easy, I mean everything is pink and you feel love is in the air, so natural...but there will also be times when marriage seem to be hard work. Marriage can have it's ups and downs and a successful mariage is only possible if both parties are prepared to work hard at it.
Love must be nutured if they want to keep it from going stale.
Has your marriage gone stale? Have you stopped spending the time that is necessary to cultivate and nurture a relationship that is fulfilling? If this is the case - read on. Here are 8 tips that could help make your marriage go from boring to totally fascinating.
1. ForgiveDisagreements are only natural in any relationship. Wherever there are two people living in close proximity there are bound to be times when they disagree. Learning to forgive and not hold grudges is vital if they are to prevent bitterness from seeping in and souring things. People make mistakes and do wrong and even clumsy things. We need to be quick to say sorry, and quick to forgive. Married couples must never harbor grudges. Besides, harbouring grudges solves nothing. LEARN TO LET GO, YOUR SPOUSE IS ONLY A HUMAN!
John 20:23 ESV
If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you withhold forgiveness from any, it is withheld.”
2. Be respectful and honesty with one another
Don't take one another for granted. Learn to say thank you. Express your appreciation for the things your husband does for you. Tell the truth. If there is a problem talk about it, don't bottle it up. Couples who face their problems and talk things through are the ones that are most likely to build a strong, loving relationships.
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
3. Remember to laugh oftenThe daily grind of life can make everything seem like a chore. A married couple should take time to share jokes and other crazy antics to decrease tension. Remember, laughter is healing.
Proverbs 17:22 ESV
A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones
It may seem obvious, but good communication is the key to a fulfilling marriage. Don't let things worsen. If there's anything making you feel upset or annoyed (maybe your husband did something even unpurpose) tell him right away, you shouldn't assume that he will guess what is wrong. What may be obvious to you, may not be obvious to him! Husbands too need to be more forthcoming in sharing what is on their minds. Good communication is vital.
Proverbs 15:1 ESV
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
5. Decide together
It is important that couples make joint decisions on things like finances, children's education and upbringing, delegation of household chores, etc. If you can't reach agreement straight away, leave it for a while and come back to it again later. Take turns in giving in to one another. Marriage isn't a competition.
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
6. Don't forget the simple, small things
Husbands don't forget to compliment us. Don't forget to praise us for a job well done. Buy us flowers. Take us out for a romantic meal. Tell us how beautiful we are. Make us feel like we are your princesses. Wives, be attentive to your husband's needs. Enjoy each other's company. Showing affection one for another is essential.
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
7. Stay in love
Nurture your love for one another. Enjoy every new discovery and every new day with your spouse.
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
8. Stay intimate
Intimacy is only able to grow in a marriage where there is a strong commitment to one another. Learn to be honest with one another about preferences. The sexual side of marriage must not vanish. Greater knowledge of your spouse and deeper affection, should make love making a celebration of your life together. Make time to be intimate.
Hebrews 13:4 ESV
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled...
Being married is not always easy. Especially in our society where so many marriages fail. But as long as both parties know that they have each other to hold on to, and most importantly God as their marriage foundation it should be a rewarding relationship. Be there for each other, “for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and til death do us part”.
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