Advice for a good marriage in some cases can seem a little obvious, but in a lot of cases it can seem like just the advice you need. When you are involved in marriage (long term relationship), sometimes it's hard to see the wood for the trees, and it takes only the most basic advice for us to see what is wrong.
Piece of Advise #1
The best piece of advice is to be honest with yourself about when it is and isn't working. When things are going wrong. If you kid yourself that everything is fine when it isn't, things are hardly likely to get better-in fact you will usually notice things getting totally worse. The sooner you spot and admit to problems, the sooner you can ask God to help you working on them. Maybe is your attitude towards your husband, your words or even has to do with your own self-image or self-esteem… Half the work is done as soon as you admit something is wrong, so don't be afraid to admit it and surrender it to God.
Piece of Advice # 2
Learn to communicate effectively. Don’t use accusations and fighting as the default method of interaction. Can you honestly hope for things to last if that's how you both behave? If you have something under your skin, sit down and talk it out. Talking about things sensibly rarely makes things worse-unlike accusations and arguing! The key is in how things are said.
Piece of Advice # 3
Understand that you can't fix the problems in your marriage solely fixing your husband's behavior. Most of the times we tend to think “if only he changes” A marriage is exactly that-the joining of two people-so it's not healthy to make one person do all the changing and adapting. This will not lead to a healthy relationship. It's much better to sit and talk it out and then work out how you can both make things better for each other. It's also a lot easier this way, as each of you will usually only need to make small adjustments to keep the other happy. One thing I learnt from Stormie Omartian on her book “The Power of a Praying wife” is that we often ask God to change him…but nothing might happen until we change the “change him” for “change ME”.
Piece of Advice # 4
Understand the simple Biblical principal-you get what you give, you reap what you sow, so if you go the extra yard for your spouse and prove yourself to be kind, caring and considerate, chances are that he will act a lot more like that towards you too. Think about when you see couples that are really in love-it's rarely just one of them doing the kind things is it?
May these thoughts bless your life and marriage!. On a quick note, though I might seem to talk a lot on marriage. Don’t think I have a perfect marriage :) nobody does. The advice I give and thoughts I share are only based on what I’ve learnt/ I’m learning. Marriage is hard work…Marriage is CONTINOUS HARD WORK. Process in the Making... It’s not something you do once and that’s it. It should be our everyday JOB. The Good thing: It’s all worth it ;) Hard work and effort always pay off!
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