Monday, October 15, 2012

5 Tips for Solving Money Issues in Marriage



Whether you and your spouse both work outside of the home, or one of you stays home with the children, it’s easy for one person to feel out of the financial picture. It’s important in a marriage to feel equal to your partner, on all levels of the playing field. Even if you don’t feel “stuck”, it’s important for couples to communicate openly about their financial situation, and try to better it together.

Most marriages have their financial ups and downs. It can truly be a test to your relationship with your spouse in dealing with the downs in particular. 

Here are some tips to help you deal with these situations in the quickest and calmest way possible.

1.-Pick the Right Time. 

Find a non stress time to sit down and have a discussion with your husband. Me and my husband love to go on evenings out, because it gives us a chance to discuss important issues in a non stress environment. If you must stay home, make sure the kids are not present during the conversation.

2.- Come Prepared. 

Write down the matters you have been thinking about beforehand so that you can stay on track during your discussion. 

3.- Don’t Get Emotional. 

Avoid personal attacks towards your spouse. Use “I” instead of “you” when speaking. Don’t be argumentative and state how you feel. Don’t point fingers, and don’t start a fight.

4.-Take Turns. 

Common courtesy will help you achieve your goals. Feeling equal to your husband will come with a general respect between you and your spouse. 


5.-Make a Plan.

 Discuss the situation and future plans with your husband. Make sure you have a basic budget in place and discuss you and your husband's vital steps in your financial future. Compile a money to-do list and check your progress often. 

Remember the love you have for each other during the conversation, and listen also to what your husband has to say during the discussion. If it seems to be a bad time in general to talk about it, remember that there will be another opportunity to let your husband know how you feel. Let it go, and pick a better time in the future.

Here are some  are several links to other web sites, which give scriptures dealing with money. Please read through them, and pray about how you can live together by the principles God presents in them:



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12 comments:

  1. Great words of wisdom. I especially like that you are encouraging patience in this process. I think we too often want to rush into sensitive issues like money without considering all the factors you've pointed out here, Angie. Thanks so much for sharing!

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    1. Thank YOU for reading ;) Oh yeah, patience, patience that's the key element of marriage and the one we often fail to practice. Working hard on that...but blessed that my husband is one of the most patient people I've ever known! He has really taught what I wrote here :)

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  2. Great advice here! Thank you for sharing! $ has always been an issue in our marriage, and I have learned (the hard way) much of what you share here. We're neighbors at Raising Arrows ;) Blessings!

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    1. ahhh! thanks so much! :) hope you're having a great week! "see" you soon! x

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  3. Angie,

    You are wise to make #1 Pick the Right Time. Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Marriage You've Always Wanted, says to always wait until AFTER a meal. He says hungry people are grumpy people, and you don't want to automatically have one strike against you before you even begin a delicate discussion. Wise words, and ones I've tried to remember whenever I have to broach a difficult subject. Linking up from Be Not Weary today :)

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    1. lol, totally agree with you Lori, really sounds funny but it's incredible how hunger can make things worse in all senses!! Thanks for visiting ;)

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  4. These are great tips for dealing with any type of conflict in a marriage, not only money-related troubles! I know money is a huge issue for so many people--I'm glad that in that one area, my husband and I really think the same. It's other issues that we have to use these tips for! :)

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    1. True that Rachel...important to keep them in mind when discussing touchy issues. Have a blessed week!

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  5. Hey Angie, money in marriage is a very sensitive issue. Thanks for sharing these tips. Visiting from Matrimonial Monday, do have a super blessed day!
    Love

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  6. Angie...You present great tips to keep in mind when addressing any issue dealing with money. Thank you for sharing this week at WJIM. Glad you did. Have a great weekend.

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  7. Great pieces of advice. It's very common for married couples to fight about money.

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